Neal Carter Passed Saturday May 14, 2011.
He will always be remembered by his family and friends.
To those of you that have been blessed to be a apart of Neal's Dash; this
poem reflects those fond memories:
by Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end
He noted that first came her date of her birth
And spoke the following date with tears
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years
For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not how much we own;
The cars the house the cash
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard.
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider whats true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.
So when your eulogy is being read
With your lifes actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?
February 8, 2011
we have an update on Neal's status. He went to the doctor two weeks
ago because he felt numbness in his face and blurred vision. They
did a body scan and found several nodules in his brain. Neal is
undergoing rigorous treatments for the next few weeks in hopes to
put himself in remission.
He has been sick everyday from this treatment and
has lost some vision in one eye, yet he forges forward for his kids,
to try and spend as much time as he can with them. In spite of his
illness, Neal is very worried about his kids future and their fate.
In his honor, and to give Neal peace we are raising
money for the kids fund. Please click on the events page and see
how you can help today. Of course, last but not least please keep
him in your prayers. Please read more about Neal's medical history
Neal and his sister Brenda 2011
Carter was born in Akron, Ohio 1966, as a twin to his sister Brenda. They
have been really close since they were born. Neal's mother died of breast
cancer when he was only three, their family struggled with her loss. Neal
went on and graduated from Revere High School in 1985. He moved to central
Florida in 1989.
In 2008, Neal was a truck driver hauling oversized loads across the country.
The pay was lucrative, which was good as he now has 6 beautiful children,
he supports and has custody of two children and he has four of his own
beautiful children. July of the same year, he saw a doctor about a growth
on his right shoulder and was diagnosed with Malignant Melanoma.
Neal had the tumor and a number of lymph nodes removed. In September,
Neal returned to Ohio.
Neal got a job with Infocision of Akron, Ohio. He mentioned
to an in-house doctor that he was having a problem with numbness in his
right hand, which he assumed was from the result of the removal of
lymph nodes under his right arm. Further testing revealed his Melanoma
had spread into his right lung and the tumor would have to be removed.
August, 2009 doctors made a 12 inch incision below his rib
cage, and then had to break two of his ribs and pull muscles apart to
get to the tumor on his right lung. Neal spent the next 4 days in the
Intensive Care Unit recovering. Thereafter, he was put on rigorous treatments
of Inferon, an IV infusion for 3 hours per day/5 days per week for a month.
He lost 22 lbs.
The next year lead to multiple surgeries, including removal
of many lymph nodes and multiple tumors several coming back negative for
melanoma. Lastly, an Esophagoscopy also came back negative for melanoma.
In August 2010, Neal was told they had found another tumor,
this time on his left lung. Doctors had to perform the exact surgery
they had done the year before on his other lung. They removed 10%
of his left lung and several more lymph nodes from his chest. Neal’s
oncologist has recommended further treatment, somewhat similar to Chemotherapy.
This is called “Leukine“ and he will have to give himself
injections daily for 14 days and then rest 14 days. He will continue this
treatment for the next year. Neal is in a battle for his life and
is worried about his children's future.
This website will collect donations that will be put into a fund for Neal
Carter's children. It will also provide you with event information. These
event and this website was coordinated by Neal's good friend, Mark Mickey.
Mark wanted to take some stress off Neal by creating this fund for his
This website was put together by Shera Casey from Coey Technologies,
Inc and inspired by Mark Mickey and Sarah Aitken in hopes to help raise
money for Neal's children, please help today.